I finally said it...
Let me explain: we all have someone or something in our lives that tears us down. And for the past 8 years, I've had 'Jack' (name changed). I really believed Jack was good for me. And some times, that was the case. But rarely. I thought if I changed and worked harder, our friendship would work. I'm a people pleaser and truly will go out of my way, to make it work, at all costs! Jack would say good morning before my eyes truly wanted to be opened, and through out most days, my miserable wake up would set the rest of my day into a negative spin. I would feel vulerable and cry, yet this 'friend' did not make me feel loved. Other dear people in my life would often say, "get rid of him, he is not changing and has no intent on changing." But call me sentimental or just plain stupid, I still kept coming back for more of Jack's validation...only to be...mocked.
Now, you are thinking, you are smart, loved, and have much to offer others...so why on earth are you settling for this friendship? Truth be told, I couldn't remember life before Jack, and much has happened in my eight years, getting married, moving to three homes, hubby working fulltime and going to school fulltime, all the while having newborns and new mom challenges. I guess I was afraid to let go of this constant in my life. And Jack was my constant.
But since I've worked thru some internal issues, I have realized that Jack has to go.
For my health and my happiness.
Last Thursday after our last visit, he made me smile and told me news I really wanted to hear...only to be told this morning that he was just teasing yet again...and with that, I've just had ENOUGH. Enough is enough! I'm done playing his games, listening to his lies and then the promises to change. I resent the time and effort I have poured into him.
You see Jack is my weigh scale. And after gaining a combined weight of 180 pounds with my three babies, I don't find being told I'm 8 pounds heavier in three days very funny...that's just mean! There are no water issues, I've work out every morning and have limited my food intake and my clothes are slowly feeling roomier.
... I'm so done.
Good bye Jack!
I'm SO over you...
15 comments:
Hit the road, Jack!
LOL - I am with you on that one!!
LOVE this post. I could not figure out this mystery friend of yours while reading the post. By the way, you look so great!!!
Way to keep it intense... Love the story. You deserve better andrea, get rid of him. I'm tempted to do the same thing. It seems like thoughs friends keep you from being the true person you were intended to be. I would smash that thing to pieces before you send it away. HE DESERVES IT....lol
ahhh...if only i could kick my 'jack' to the curb too. i think i'd be much happier too.
Oh you make me laugh Andrea. I agree with Ang, you are looking great.
I have a friend named Jack, but he's very neglected. I haven't talked to him in years because I don't really like what he says. So the only time I pull him out is to put down a squishy baby toosh on him, and I'm only looking for a number that the Dr. already confirmed.
So good riddance Mr. Jack!
And by the way, your new profile picture is ultra sheek.
Good for you!
Who needs him anyway?!! I've been giving my Jack the silent treatment for the last 6 months!
He gets soooo mean, why go through all the pain and tears?
Find a motel JACK!!
YAH!!!!!! BURN THE SCALE!!!!!!!!!! i salute you andrea.
Yay!! Good bye and good riddance!!!
I was trying to figure out if you were talking about an actual person or not... that is hilarious!!! :)
Good for you... and you do look great, I agree.
thanks for listening to my rant...y'all are too kind! Jack did hit the road...and it feels so good!
Yeah, Jack is a liar and he likes to make women believe that their beauty comes from a number!! You should submit that post to the Dove ads, maybe you'll win a lifetime of product, LOL!
OH girlfriend AMEN to that!!! Lets chuck that thing as far as the east is from the west and leave the stinkin dude behind and love us for us!!!! Do I hear and AMEN?? LOL
Louise- yep...loud and clear.
as of 11:24am, Jack officially, 'hit the road'
Wow. I can't tell you how this made me laugh and cry all at the same time. I had one of those "jack controlled my day" today -- I am so frustrated in this area of my life!!!
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